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Breaking the Cycle for Those Raised Without It

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I got bad news…i’m feeling under the weather 🤧 It’s getting cold, and at least once a year, I get sick during this time of the year. What's worse is that this is the second time that I've been sick in these past two months, and winter doesn't end for a couple more months 😳. So, I'm currently in bed recovering, letting my body heal while I write this. I'll let you know how I'm doing tomorrow!

While we're on the subject of healing, I've noticed that many people associate gentle parenting solely with how to treat their children. Yet, what about the parents who never experienced gentle parenting themselves? What about those who didn't receive empathy or respect as children? It's heartening to witness parents taking steps to provide the empathy they lacked as children to their own kids. However, have they also taken the time to rest, recover, and heal from their own childhood trauma?

It can be incredibly challenging for various reasons. Perhaps you don't feel heard, had a tough day at work, or aren't feeling respected, among other things. One aspect that prompts me to reflect on all of this is when I find myself making comparisons.

It's so simple when you're with a child who isn't listening, and you begin to contemplate what would have transpired if you had behaved similarly as a child. The potential for being spanked, told you're ungrateful or a bad kid, missing out on something, or facing trouble and feeling unheard may come to mind.

As these thoughts flood in, I become entangled in my own trauma and past frustrations, and you know the saying:

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Theodore Roosevelt

While I engage in these comparisons, I realize that I'm only robbing myself of the opportunity to foster a stronger relationship with the child through empathy, respect, and open dialogue. Ceasing the comparisons allows us to break free from the rules we no longer have to live by. It's time to provide your inner child with the love and patience you always needed so you can embark on a proper recovery.

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We've just acknowledged that comparison can be the thief of our joy. Yet, what prompts us to engage in these comparisons? It's our triggers that lead us to react in this manner. A deeper insight involves identifying these triggers and understanding why they come about. Some triggers may stem from the fear of being stereotyped as the "bad parent" when your child doesn't always listen. Others might arise from ingrained teachings from your parents that you subconsciously still believe in, teachings that you haven't yet challenged with the principles of gentle parenting.

To break free from these triggers, it's essential to introspect and uncover the underlying beliefs that fuel the need to compare. Ask yourself why certain behaviors trigger such strong reactions and explore whether they align with the values and principles you now embrace as a GentleParent.

Challenging and reframing these deep-seated beliefs can be a transformative process. It involves acknowledging that gentle parenting offers a different, more compassionate approach—one that focuses on understanding and meeting the emotional needs of both the parent and the child.

By recognizing and addressing these triggers, we create space for a more authentic and mindful connection with our children. This shift not only benefits our parenting journey but also allows us to heal and grow beyond the limitations imposed by our past experiences.

Some Steps Towards Breaking The Cycle

In essence, recognizing and understanding our triggers is a crucial step towards adopting a more mindful and compassionate parenting style. Also, be mindful of the comparisons that may sneak into your thoughts. As you embark on this journey of self-discovery and growth, remember that if I need rest. You need it too! Not just from illnesses but also emotional distress from the past. So, give yourself the gift of rest, both physically and emotionally.

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