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The 4-Step Formula for Your Child to Trust You Completely!

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Good morning from Florida! I’m just sipping on my hot green tea after returning from a wonderful Christmas with my family. There were a few things to unpack, as you can imagine. We all cherish the holidays as a fantastic time to be with family, but it's also a period that can stir up not-so-positive memories. Sometimes, past traumas or experiences resurface, making it a bit challenging to connect with others.

A lot can happen in a year, and it's hard to hop on a call every week with your siblings, parents, uncles, aunts, 1st and 2nd cousins. Without building these connections weekly, a lot of feelings can go unheard. A simple 'I'm busy' can push away the ones we love.

I believe it's crucial to know how to talk about these feelings with our loved ones, and it's something we can do any time of the year. Growing up, figuring out how to have those tough talks with my parents was a bit of a challenge, but you know what? It's totally doable!

So let's dive into how we can healthily facilitate difficult conversations with our children when these big emotions resurface. But before we continue this conversation, go support the sponsor we love today, here’s a quick ad for them.


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Before applying these steps to your life, consider these tips. If you aim for a long-term relationship with your kids, where they check in with you weekly or even daily, remember that incorporating these steps into your life may be challenging, especially at the beginning. However, when you keep in mind how your actions impact the long-term relationship, your focus shifts to consistently modeling these behaviors.

Encouraging your kids to check in with you daily and open up involves exemplifying this behavior throughout your entire life. As you consistently incorporate these steps into your daily routine, your child will likely adopt and reflect these habits not only with you but also with others in their life. Now, let's delve into these four simple tips!

Create a safe haven: When your child brings up a past experience to you, ensure that you do not shut it down. Instead, provide your child with the patience that they need. It is also important to reserve your judgement to enable them to express themselves to the full extent.

Acknowledge your child’s feelings: It is important to verbally acknowledge your child’s feelings to validate them. This enables your child to know that you are a support system for them and that you care about their feelings. No one likes talking to wall.

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Actively listen: Make sure you're really tuned in when your child is talking. One of the biggest things that can mess up communication is not fully listening to what's being said. Moreover, if you happen to miss something, it's perfectly okay to ask them to repeat themselves. The objective is to foster a dialogue where both parties fully hear each other, rather than having a one-sided conversation

Be Honest: Always keep it real with your child during these challenging chats. Trust is like the glue that holds your relationship together because it lets your child know they're respected. Nobody likes being fed fibs, and let's face it, most people can sniff out a lie from a mile away!

Here are 4 simple tips that can really make a difference when you're navigating tricky conversations with your child. It's crucial to recognize that, although these talks might be challenging, they play a vital role in building a trusting and healthy relationship with your child. Creating a safe space ensures that your child feels comfortable coming to you with anything on their mind. We all crave being heard and validated – it brings us closer.

Actively engaging in these tough conversations not only helps your child overcome fears of difficulty but also teaches them to embrace challenges in their future relationships, including the one they have with you. Treat them in a manner that, when you grow old and they start taking care of you, you'll notice the steps you applied are reflected in how they treat you.


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