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As I lay in bed one Saturday night, a nagging feeling gnawed at my conscience. My "mom alarm" was going off, and I couldn't shake the sense that something wasn't quite right. My 17-year-old daughter, August, had shared her plans for the evening, reassuring me she was out enjoying dinner with her boyfriend. Yet, despite her assurances, an unsettling sense of unease lingered in the air. 

Pushing my doubts aside, I scolded myself for even considering that she might not be doing what she said. After all, I thought, doubting her honesty felt like a failure on my part as a mother. Nonetheless, the uneasiness persisted, urging me to investigate further.

With a hesitant hand, I reached for my phone and opened the Life360 app. As the map loaded, my suspicions were confirmed. August's icon was nowhere near a sushi restaurant; instead, it hovered in a seemingly random neighborhood, far from any dining establishments.

My heart raced as I dialed her number, my voice strained with apprehension. "Hey," I began, trying to steady my nerves, "what are you doing?" I asked, struggling to keep the frustration at bay. Her response came as a casual reassurance, but each word only intensified my mounting disbelief. But before we continue this conversation, go support the sponsor we love today, here’s a quick ad for them.

The discrepancy between her words and the reality before me threatened to unleash a storm of emotions. “Hey Mom, I’m just outside of the sushi restaurant, I’ll be home soon.” How could she lie so effortlessly? At that moment, I felt like I had failed as a parent. All my years of teaching morality and right from wrong seemed to crumble as she blatantly lied to my face. “August, I can see where you are.” 

As August's voice trembled with fear and uncertainty, apologizing for her actions, I was left speechless. In that moment, I wanted to respond with wisdom and compassion, to be the gentle parent who imparts valuable life lessons. But the truth was, I was as lost and confused as she was. It wasn't until years later that my own seeds of maturity took root, allowing me to see the role I had unwittingly played in pushing her into a corner. By already knowing the truth, I had inadvertently set her up to lie.

If you've ever found yourself in a similar situation, you understand the conflicting emotions that come with it. As parents, we walk a fine line between wanting to protect our children and needing to trust them. But what I've come to realize is that sometimes, our actions can unintentionally erode that trust.

After years of parenting, teaching, and consulting with parents, I've learned a valuable lesson that I want to pass along: Stop setting your child up to lie. Don't ask your child a question you already know the answer to. It's a simple principle, yet one that is often overlooked in the heat of the moment. Instead of allowing them to lie, state what you know and move forward with a solution. Take it as an opportunity to build a better path forward. Reflecting on my own journey as a parent, I realized that I had to make changes to better navigate teenage deception and rebuild trust with my daughter, August.

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